Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Birthday Love

Happy Birthday, dearest daughter.
34 years ago today, our 2nd daughter was born. A lovely dark eyed, dark haired, bundle of joy.

She was welcomed by us and her 3 1/2 year old sister, lots of grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins.





She grew into a loving, caring, giving person. She made friends with the friendless. She fought for the under dogs. She protected the helpless. We were very proud of her and her convictions.



We lost Andrea in July of 2006 in a car crash.



This blog is named Dragonfly Corner in her memory. She was passionate about dragonflies and their beauty.





Dragonflies help us keep her in our hearts.





I hope when you see one you will think of her too.




You were a wonderful, fiercely protective mother, a loving daughter, sister, wife and friend.
We miss you, Andie. We will always love you and keep you in our hearts.

38 comments:

Beth said...

Oh Beckie, what a hard day this must be for you and your family. I hope that you are able to spend it in peace. My husband lost a daughter 30 years ago when she was a toddler and he still can barely get out of bed on her birthday. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. I'll be thinking of you.

Lisa at Greenbow said...

Dearest Beckie, I do think of you, S and Andie when I see dragonflies. I do hope you have peace as I know she has that loving peace. Prayers and love flow your way, especially today.

perennialgardener said...

My heart goes out to you Beckie on this day of remembrance. I can't even imagine the strength it takes to keep going after losing a child. Happy Birthday to your beloved daughter. You are in my thoughts & prayers today.

Susie said...

I'm sorry Beckie, I had no idea. Dragonflies just took on a whole new meaning for me. I'll be praying for you today.

Rose said...

Dear Beckie, I hadn't even realized what day it was yet this morning until I saw your title. So many memories come flooding back...Andrea definitely was the champion of the underdog and the protector of the defenseless. I remember all the times our kids played together when young...
I'm sure she is looking down and watching her own little ones with pride. She is thankful for all that you have done and all the love you share with the girls.

A big hug from me today, Beckie.

Rose

Gail said...

Dear Beckie,

I can only imagine how you are feeling today and everyday. What a sad loss for you and your family. I can hear the deep love and pride you have for Andrea. What a remarkable young woman she must have been!
Champions of the underdogs are indeed very special people. Thank you Beckie for sharing your daughter's birthday with us. My thoughts will be with you today.

Gail

Laurie and Chris said...

This has to be a very hard day for you. You are in our thoughts.

Cheryl said...

Dear Beckie....my eyes are filled with tears.......when the dragonflies come to my garden they will be Andrea's.......and I will now always have that association.......

Thinking of you and your family......

Meems @HoeandShovel said...

Beckie, What a heartrending tribute to a beautiful daughter. It is the worst imaginable thing to lose a child. You are a brave soul... I'll think of Andie and you now when I'm admiring dragonflies. Please take comfort today in the prayers of your blogging friends.

flydragon said...

I came back to your post about 5 times today trying to leave a comment that would express my feelings but each time I left without saying anything. I still don't know what to say except that I am so, so sorry for your loss. To lose a child has to be the worst experience a parent could go through but what great memories you have to comfort you.

Mary said...

Beckie. Losing a child is my worst fear. I'm so sorry...

She's loving this right now - a sweet tribute to her.

Hugs,
Mary

beckie said...

Beth, i am so sorry for Charlie's loss. Losing a child at anyage is something you never really get over. You learn to go on but there is a piece of you missing. Thank you for your kind words.

beckie said...

Lisa, thnsk you do much for your prayers. Having family there was an enormous help to us. I pray every day that she has found peace.

beckie said...

Racquel, thank you for your kind words and your prayers. We had the love and support of family and friends to help us through our loss. I have often said, we couldn't have done it with out them.

beckie said...

Susie, at first it was hard to see a dragonfly, but now they bring me great comfort and I can remember the good times. Thank you for your concern,

beckie said...

Rose, you know I couldn'thave made it through without you there to help me. We do have good memories of the kids when they were young and I am so thankful we can share those memories. My hope is to be able to tell the girls what a wonderful person their mother was.

beckie said...

Gail, I so appreciate your kindness. I wanted to write volumes about Andie and the good she did. I couldn't, but hope I wrote enough to show she was a very special person. Thank you.

beckie said...

Laurie and Chris, the is made easier by caring people like you. Thanl you.

beckie said...

Cheryl, I know Andrea would have loved your gardens and all that you do for nature. She has such a soft spot in her heart for all of God's creatures. It will make me happy to know you are thinking of her when you see those beautiful dragonflies in your sanctuary. Thank you for your kindness my dear friend.

beckie said...

Thank you Meems. I do take comfort from all the caring of my blogging friends. I am not brave..I have drawn strength from caring people like you.

beckie said...

Flydragon, what a kind soul you are. Just know you care is what matters. Sometimes words are not needed. We do have wonderful memories and they bring us great comfort, now. Thank you for your friendship.

beckie said...

Mary, I do think she knows. And that brings me peace. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend.

Roses and Lilacs said...

Beckie, she sounds like a wonderful person, the kind I would have wanted to know. The world is a little poorer when we lose someone like this. I'm glad you told us her story.
Marnie

marmee said...

beckie
this is my first time here and i am in awe at your tribute to your daughter. i love watching dragonflies flitting around and will now think of andie when i see them. bless you and your family.

beckie said...

Marnie, thank you for your kind words. Andie was such a special person not just to us her family, but to all who met her. She would have likes your independent attitude. :)

beckie said...

Marmee, thank you for visiting! I have enjoyed seeing Meems' visit with you. I shall have to see your gardens for myself. Thank you for your caring. Dragonflies are wonderful to watch aren't they?

tina said...

I have to just weep at this post. I was all set to wish your daughter happy birthday when I saw the news. I am so sorry for your loss Beckie. It must be the worst thing in the world, and I promise you when I see dragonflies I will think of your daughter.

Philip Bewley said...

Lots of love and prayers to you. When I see a dragonfly I will think of her. She sounds like such a wonderful person.
Sincerely,
Philip

joey said...

Oh dear Beckie, I'm still away from home, checking in and at loss for words reading your post. I see I have much to learn about you, dear friend. My heart weeps with yours, knowing a child's birthday is also deeply shared with the parents. I adore dragonflies and will never see another without holding Andrea's memory near. I feel your pain and empty arms since I too lost a child. More than ever I know why each time I hear from you, feel connected. Bless you and your beautiful loved ones.

beckie said...

Philip, thank you for your kind words. She was a very special person and much loved bu all who knew her,
Thank you for visiting.

beckie said...

Joey, Oh dear. I am so sorry for your loss, There is no pain as graet, I think. Thank you for your caring kind words. You are right-I feel a connection as well. We shall meet one day and become even closer friends.

Morning Glories in Round Rock said...

Dear Beckie, my heart ached for you as I read this post. You have endured something that no one should have to face--the death of a child. No matter how old they are, they are still your dear precious babies. I am so glad you explained why you named your blog dragonfly corner, and I will always remember how special they are. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Wendy said...

Dear Beckie - I thought I had left a comment here yesterday. Looks like it got lost in cyberspace.

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. Sending love and blessings your way.

Thanks For 2 Day said...

Hi Beckie,
I was very touched by your post. I am sorry for your pain. I wish you peace!

I love your new blog look! It's special to know how significant the dragonfly is to you.

My blog has changed, too. I made a mistake and deleted my posts from my old one. But I am moving forward...so stop by anytime!

Jan

Andrea's Garden said...

Hi Beckie,
As a mom who lost her 2.5 yr old, I know how these birthday anniversaries can be. My Carianne would have been 17 this year. Everyone told me that time would heal. Anyone that has lost a child knows that this is not true. The lucky ones learn to live with it, but you never get over it. I have a question....did you start gardening heavily after you lost your daughter? Thats when I really went wild in my yard...I always had veggie gardens and the boring pots of geraniums but I started my first perennial bed in Nov of 03. I ordered 300.00 worth of tiny perennials and put them in the ground and only ONE came back the following year! That is when I started learning about gardening..
Gardening has brought me closer to God and closer to my daughter. God bless your broken heart....

Andrea's Garden said...

Hi Beckie,
As a mom who lost her 2.5 yr old, I know how these birthday anniversaries can be. My Carianne would have been 17 this year. Everyone told me that time would heal. Anyone that has lost a child knows that this is not true. The lucky ones learn to live with it, but you never get over it. I have a question....did you start gardening heavily after you lost your daughter? Thats when I really went wild in my yard...I always had veggie gardens and the boring pots of geraniums but I started my first perennial bed in Nov of 03. I ordered 300.00 worth of tiny perennials and put them in the ground and only ONE came back the following year! That is when I started learning about gardening..
Gardening has brought me closer to God and closer to my daughter. God bless your broken heart....

Sue said...

I read this when it was first posted, and just now checked to make sure I'd left a comment like I thought I did. I must not have thought of the words I wanted to say. I just wanted you to know I did read it, and was glad you let us know about your daughter.

Sue

Kylee said...

Oh Beckie, I'm so sorry to hear this. Thanks for sharing Andrea's story and I can't imagine how all of you must miss her terribly. What a wonderful tribute to her.

((((((((Beckie and family))))))))